The Equinox of Adventure#
As the winter months are beginning to pack up and depart to usher in the upcoming spring and summer months, I find my spirit beginning to improve with the notion of longer and warmer days.
I have always been a fan of winter, don’t get me wrong, however, it does not hold anywhere near as much fondness in me as the spring and summer.
With that being said, I am currently beginning to plan some adventures for myself and my children. In previous years I have taken them to the Highlands of Scotland to view a variety of things — desolate castles, palaces that are still occupied, landmarks in neighbouring cities.
A Quiet Shift#
There is something that happens to you as you get older. When I was younger, cities were everything — the culture, the evening energy, the sense that something was always happening just around the corner. Food, events, people moving with purpose. I loved it.
Nowadays, I find myself drawn somewhere quieter. The open expanse of rolling hills. The wide reaches of the sea. An endless sky with nothing underneath it asking anything of you.
Places like Ullapool — a small, unhurried port town on the west coast — hold more for me now than any city centre could. I was last there boarding a ship to the Outer Hebrides, and I remember standing at the water’s edge thinking that this was exactly enough. Aviemore, Inverness, anything that sits inside the Highlands — there is a magic to that region that I do not think I will ever fully put into words, and I have stopped trying. I just take the children and let them feel it for themselves.
The Night We Slept Under the Stars#
Of all the trips we have taken, one stands apart.
It was a Saturday. My wife was abroad. Somewhere in the middle of that morning, I made a decision — the kind that does not survive too much thinking — and sent her a message that simply said we were going camping. Why not. Life is too short.
We packed the tent, the sleeping bags, the cooking equipment, the provisions, and by lunchtime we were on the road to Glenmore, east of Aviemore, on the edge of the Cairngorms. We put the tent up, spent the day doing what you do in a place like that, and felt very pleased with ourselves.
Then the evening came, and so did the wind and rain.
The tent held, but sleep did not. At some point I made the call — we folded the back seats down, laid out the air mattress across the boot, and the three of us climbed in. It was not glamorous. It was very much fine.
What happened later was not fine. It was something else entirely.
The rain stopped. The wind died down. And my children, heads resting near the back window, slept on — except that window had become a lens to the sky. Stars, uninterrupted, looking straight back at them. If either of them woke in the night, the first thing they would have seen was that. Not a ceiling. Not a wall. The sky.
I did not sleep much after that. I did not want to.
This Year’s Plans#
Aviemore is on the list again. The children have made that quite clear — it is not a suggestion so much as an expectation, and I am happy to oblige.
I also want to take them to Loch Leven Castle, a place I have been meaning to visit for a while. We are members of Historic Scotland, which means we have access not just to the sites themselves but to the events they run — and those events are something else. Last year we went to a medieval festival at Linlithgow Palace: jousting, costumes, the full spectacle of it. The children were completely absorbed. Those are the afternoons that stay.
And then there is the Outer Hebrides. I have been before, and I want them to experience it — the beaches, the open land, the particular quality of time out there. You do not feel rushed on the Outer Hebrides. Time does not move slowly exactly, but it moves differently. It gives you room.
Chasing Events, Not Places#
Something I have come to understand about travelling with children is that the destination matters less than you think it will. When they are young, you are not really chasing places — you are chasing what happens inside them. A jousting knight. A fire you cook your own food on. Stars through a car window.
I think when you get older, something flips. You want to experience a specific place, a specific thing. But when you have small children, the event is the thing. The memory is being made and it does not care much where it is.
Time is strange that way. It does not speed up or slow down — that is only ever our perception of it. When my children were younger, I would sometimes catch myself looking forward to them being older, thinking there would be more common ground, more shared conversation. I understand now that was simply wishing time away — theirs and mine both.
I would rather change myself to meet them where they are, than wait for them to grow into where I am. These trips are part of that. Spending time together, building something between us — their confidence, their sense of curiosity, their feeling that the world is worth exploring and that we explore it together.
When I was a child, we had our own version of this. Not camping, nothing so dramatic — mostly going out to pick mushrooms. Small trips. Quiet ones. I remember them fondly in a way that has nothing to do with the mushrooms.
I imagine that is the point.
